When I imagined my trip to Thailand, one of the things that excited me the most was the beautiful and unique photo opportunities it would present, and I wasn’t disappointed. What I am disappointed in is the volume and quality of my photos.
Don’t get me wrong, I have some great shots that I love; but I expected more from myself. So I’ve thought about why this situation, this contradiction, came about. And here’s one of the things I’ve come up with.
When traveling with friends, one is always trying to find a balance. Everyone doesn’t always get what they want and your companions may have different objectives and preferences then you have. So it may happen that the two of you are walking down the street and you see something you’d love to photograph or record. Your friend is powering through the streets in search of something cold to drink. You have choices.
You can go for a quick shot and hustle to keep up. You might shout out to her to hold on a second as you take a quick, but more thoughtful shot or two. You can leave it behind and let it haunt your nightmares for nights to come. Or you can say, I’ll meet up with you in the middle. You go ahead.
Particularly for those traveling with non-photographers, and what I mean by that is they aren’t constantly on the lookout for good photographs, they just like to have a few nice shots to remember the experience and that’s well enough, it can be difficult to dedicate the time that you’d like to taking photographs, shooting videos or writing. And this is where prior communication comes in. You should, I should have, strived to make clear that documenting my trip is something that I take very seriously. Yes, it’s a hobby of mine, but one that I love. It’s important to let them know that you’ll probably be stopping often.
As a side note, there are many blog posts that have been written about the joys and benefits of solo travel. This is one of them.
One of the issues with saying, “Hang on a second so I can take this photo” is that you feel time on your shoulders. You feel someone waiting, and that can have an effect on the time you decide to spend in getting just the right angle or lighting or moment. Often travelers feel afraid to separate. In our case, none of us had phone service, so meeting up wasn’t the easiest of tasks. However, you’ll find that in many places that won’t be a problem. But if it is an issue, you can most often both start walking in the direction of each other and you’ll find one another.
Actually, on our final night in Thailand, the ladies wanted to get massages and I didn’t. So I took that opportunity to explore my surrounding solo. I took many videos (as I’d like to create some sort of compilation in the future), I stumbled onto a Bike Show (hundreds of motorcycles and scooters beeping horns and revving engines in a procession down the street, and I managed to get myself lost. Thankfully, there is food being sold on every corner!
So this may be unconventional, or maybe not, but I’m going to show you some of the photos that I rushed, looked back on later, and kicked myself for. The ugly children should have some time in the sunlight too.




My lessons learned:
- Explain the importance of your documenting the trip to your travel companions.
- It’s better to let them wander than always having them wait. It’ll create less anxiety for them as well if there’s something else they’d rather be doing.
- It’s okay to take some time to be alone on your journey and explore a new city solo. You can always meet up in 10 minutes, 30 minutes or an hour or two.
Does anyone else have some advice they’d like to add to this? Have you found yourself in this situation before, and how’d you handle it?
I completely agree! Being a Libra, I’m always trying to find balance in every situation (which can be exhausting) and also my LOVE of photos and taking them has me on the same page as you. The pictures in this post give me a serious craving to do more world travel- you’re so lucky (:
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I’m glad you could relate to this post. It can be exhausting always teething to find balance. And I know you’ll get traveling soon enough. Where there’s a will, there’s a way. I didn’t really start until my 30s so I totally understand your feeling, believe me!
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Thanks so much (:
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I love traveling on my own! When in a group though, I have always taken photos quickly. But maybe having everyone meet up later would be better!
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Solo travel is awesome, right! And yes, tell them to keep on moving, you’ve got serious documenting to do! 😃
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It is better to let your travel companion/s know about your penchant for photography and definitely better than stewing inside about lost chances. Good advise, milady 🙂 That last shot oozes personality.
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Stewing inside is the worst. We’ve got to do better. And thank you, I’m glad I was able to stick it out and get that shot.
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🙂 xx
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I actually liked all the photos you showed 😂 But it makes me laugh that you call them ‘the ugly children’, I have a fair few of those, but I refuse to delete anything. When I travelled to Peru both me and my friend Sarah had our cameras out constantly. We were crawling through the town, both stopping to take photos of everything. I loved that about our trip. When I travelled with Rory, he slowly became like that too. At first he kept walking before realizing I had stopped to take a photo of a sign or something. Then by the end, he was the one who kept stopping cause he swear he saw a lizard and he is going to get a photo of it 😂
I’m with you on the advice though, definitely let people know if you’re on to take photos of everything.
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Ugh deleting is always so hard. Sometimes I think, maybe if I can drop it here or blur this section there 😂 pathetic. Not every picture can have a Cinderella story but we’ll always try, haha.
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Also, it’s so great to have a companion that’s just as enthusiastic about taking photos. I love that Rory is chasing lizards now! I’ve managed to convert one 🙄
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YES YES YES! Too many times I just leave it when I really want to take a photo for the fear that my companions are hanging over me or wanting to leave, I guess sometimes you just have to be a little…selfish.
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Let’s just say they’ll understand later when they see our 100 awesome pictures next to their 3 decent ones 😂
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This so happens to me, Whenever I go somewhere with friends or even family, all they care about is clicking pictures of themselves and as soon as they are done, they start moving, I for one, love to take my time, capture every bit in my camera. 🙂 Great Post And I loved the pictures, they all had a very homely and raw feel to them.
Btw, I nominated you for the Sunshine Blogger Award 🙂 https://theglamourhippie.wordpress.com/2017/07/26/the-sunshine-blogger-award-and-nominations/
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You’ve described perfectly exactly what happens.🙄 I’m glad you enjoyed and related to this post and thank you so much for the nomination, Nivi!
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